Dominant Roles and Titles
Below is a list of roles and titles that Dominants can use. BUT REMEMBER one of the main tenets of BDSM and Power Dynamics is to do what feels right for you and your partner. There are people in the lifestyle who have firm beliefs that a “Goddess” is not a “real” role while others thrive in it. In the end, it doesn’t matter what other people believe, it only matters what you and your partner(s) think. When having conversations with partners or potential partners, define your terms. DO NOT ASSUME that when you tell someone you are a “Mommy Domme” that you are all talking about the same thing. One person could be talking about a nurturing Domme while the other is talking about age play. Define as you go.
Types of Dominant Females
Amazon/Protector/Heroine
These are Dominants who prioritize their family and community, ensuring the safety and well-being of those under their care. While their methods may vary, their ultimate goal remains the same—to protect and nurture their loved ones. Some take a direct approach, fighting on the front lines, while others focus on guarding the home and caring for the next generation.
Brat Tamer, Brat Handler, Brat Wrangler
A Dominant who specifically enjoys and is skilled at managing, engaging with, and “taming” a bratty submissive.
Caregiver
A person who assumes a nurturing and/or parental role in a relationship dynamic, tending to their partner’s needs while providing encouragement and support for their growth.
Castrator or Castratrix
The giving role in castration play, not necessarily a Dominant
Cuckoldress
A person (not necessarily a Dominant) who has cuckolded her partner by engaging in sexual activities with another person while the cuckold or cuckquean watches (or at least knows).
The dynamic often emphasizes the perceived sexual superiority of the third party but can also be driven by voyeuristic or exhibitionistic pleasure for all involved.
Deity
A Deity is one of many titles a Dominant can choose to take and its meaning varies depending on the person who uses it. See Goddess.
Domina
Domina is one of many titles a self-identifying female Dominant can choose to take and its meaning varies depending on the person who uses it. Sometimes a Domina can take on the controlling, authoritative role in a power exchange dynamic. She can be the one who enforces rules, gives direction, and maintains control over her submissive(s). A Domina may emphasize authority and control, and can include elements like setting tasks, providing punishment or rewards, and overseeing the emotional and physical well-being of the submissive.
Domme / Dom
A female-identifying person who consensually assumes power, authority, or control in a relationship, scene, or activity. This term is controversial in the Dominant Female community. Many woman feel that “Dom” means dominant and there is no reason to “feminize” he word by adding “-me”. Others feel like it is a quick and easy way to communicate they are female presenting.
Female Supremacist
This Dominant embodies female superiority and male inferiority, viewing men as the enemy—one best kept chained at her feet. She excels in degradation, finding simple humiliation far too lenient for her tastes.
Femdom
A female dominant or a scene with a woman top
Feminizer
A person, not necessarily a Dominant, who likes to transform men into feminine beings by modifying their appearance, behavior and mindset.
Femme Fatale / Heartbreaker
These Dominants are masters of manipulation, expertly using their skills to get what they want without emotional attachment. Fully aware of the power of their sexuality, they wield it without hesitation. Often self-serving and emotionally sadistic, they take everything a man has to offer while giving as little as possible in return. With a keen understanding of his strengths, weaknesses, ambitions, and desires, they skillfully twist them to serve their own purposes.
FinDomme / FinDom / Financial Dominant
This Dominant exerts varying levels of control over the financial decisions and resources of the submissive. This dynamic can range from requesting tributes or gifts to managing the submissive’s financial matters. While professional financial dominants provide a legitimate service with consent, the emergence of amateur financial dominants seeking to exploit vulnerable individuals for easy money has contributed to misunderstandings and negative judgment of this kink.
Goddess / Deity
A type of Dominant who thrives in a kink dynamic centered on worship, admiration, and devotion. They may establish consensual rules for their worshipper, incorporating ritualistic and sacrificial elements, such as prayers and ceremonial behaviors, to reinforce their authority and reverence.
Guide
The Guide is a Dominant that serves as a teacher on a spiritual level, imparting not only the beliefs and practices of established religions but also the deeper wisdom of recognizing the Divine in all aspects of life.
Healer
A dominant who has as a passion to repair her sub; body, mind, and spirit.
Head of Household: (HoH)
The HoH is considered “the boss” within the relationship and home. They hold the authority and power to make decisions and, in some cases, enforce them.
Key Holder
The Dominant in chastity play, responsible for holding the key to a locked chastity cage or belt.
Ma’am
A title or form of address used in place of a name as a respectful or polite way to address a woman of higher rank.
Miss
a shortened form of “Mistress”, can be used as an honorific
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Mistress / Master
A Dominant who consensually takes ownership of someone they are in a relationship with, or a dominant/top who sees themselves as a “master” of a dynamic or skill. It is one of many titles a female Dominant can choose and its meaning varies depending on the person who uses it.
I”Mistress” can mean the feminine version of “Master”; a Dominant who takes on an ownership role over a submissive, often referred to as a slave, in a Mistress/slave (M/s) dynamic. This type of power exchange can be more structured and intense than a standard Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship. BUT it is important to know that many people do not see a difference between M/s and D/s. I, myself, flow between the titles depending on the setting we are in.
Mommy Domme/ Loving Domme /Nurturer
This Dominant is doting and affectionate. She lovingly takes her submissive under her wing. She is sweet, kind, and nurturing, yet unwavering in her authority—her will is absolute. While this dynamic may relate to age play, it is not a requirement.
Mxtress
A gender-neutral or non-binary term used to refer to a Dominant.
Owner
An Owner is a Dominant who consensually possesses and exercises control over another. They take responsibility for their partner or property, tending to their needs and well-being with the same care one would give to a cherished possession or beloved pet.
Pillow Queen
A female-presenting Dominant who takes pleasure in having things done to her while also enjoying being adored and pleasured at the same time.
Pleasure Domme
A Dominant who exercises control over a submissive’s pleasure, deciding when—or if—they can orgasm or engage in self-pleasure. This dynamic emphasizes pleasure as a reward, often incorporating edging, orgasm control, and denial or forced release. Some argue that all Dommes inherently control their submissive’s pleasure, making this label somewhat redundant.
Primal Mistress
A person who prefers to release themselves from human inhibitions and embrace wildness and/or their own inner beast, sometimes identifying with roles based on foundational and/or animalistic instincts, behaviors, and desires.
Pro Dom /Dominatrix
These terms most often refer to a professional dominatrix who conducts sessions or scenes where she dominates or tops, usually for payment. This work is legal in many areas and is not considered prostitution, as it often does not involve genital sex.
Puppeteer/Puppet Master
Puppeteer/Puppet Master
The relationship between a puppet and puppeteer, or puppet master, is a form of objectification dynamic.
The one in control is the Puppeteer or Puppet master, with “Puppet Master” being the more fitting term when the control extends beyond an individual to a group or event.
Queen
The Queen is a Dominant who enjoys being served hand and foot by her slaves and/or submissives who worship and adore her.
Teacher
The Teacher is a Dominant who confidently guides her submissive on a journey of growth and self-discovery, helping them become all they are meant to be. Their only task is to trust her lead and embrace their true potential.
Toymaker
A Dominant role in which they take pleasure in treating their partners as toys or playthings. They objectify their partner, shaping them into the ideal toy for their own enjoyment. The primary focus of a Toymaker is to create and refine ‘good toys’.