TPE stands for Total Power Exchange and is a specific type of authority transfer within a D/s dynamic. People who practice total power exchange retain the power dynamic at all times.

A TPE is about total control, not the actual denial of the submissive’s personal agency. Personal agency is defined as an individual’s ability to control their own behaviours and reactions to circumstances beyond their control, even if their actions are limited by someone or something else.

People in D/s dynamics use terms such as top, dominant, bottom, or submissive to describe their roles.

However, people who enter in TPE often use the titles Master/Mistress/slave. This denotes the intensity and permanence of the power exchange.

With a 24/7 power exchange, those titles remain during any and every interaction.

While a lot of D/s dynamics often renegotiate constantly throughout the relationship, with TPE, the submissive gives up control for the duration of the relationship. This is why this is something that cannot be entered without enough time in a more traditional D/s dynamic to build absolute trust. This isn’t something to be rushed.

TPE is appealing for a lot of people because of the level of trust involved. The submissive puts all trust in the dominant, which can be both scary and liberating. This is also a huge responsibility for the dominant and should not be taken lightly.

During TPE, the submissive gives complete trust to the dominant partner and believes they will keep their best interests in mind, that they can trust the Dom to take care of them, physically and mentally. The Dom must always take care not to exploit the trust that their submissive has placed in them.

Many people who believe in TPE do not use a safeword because it goes against the idea of surrendering all control. Things like topping from the bottom are absolutely not tolerated in a TPE.

One misconception is that total power exchange is all benefits for the Dom. You can see how it might look like that from the outside, having a submissive who will serve you in every way and always be at your beck and call. However, the responsibility the Dom takes on is far greater than a more casual D/s arrangement. Also, many slaves desire the ability to give up control and be protected and cared for by their Masters/Mistresses. They find freedom in this arrangement that they cannot get in other ways.

So how is this all related to Consensual Non Consent (CNC)?

Many people associate CNC with a rape kink. But really, that is only one type of CNC.

Some common types of CNC are:
Rape play
Somnophilia
Kidnapping play
Blackmail
Selling play (either slave market Or trafficking)
Hypnosis

However, TPE relationships are also a form of CNC because the slave gives consent before handing over control to their partner. The CNC refers to a mutual agreement where the Dom is able to act as if the submissive has waived all consent. What this actually will and will not entail is what the beforehand negotiations are for. But, once that is over, that’s the end of it. The submissive has some time at the beginning to have some say in this…but once this stage has been entered, that is over. However, keeping in mind again, the basis of this type of relationship is deep trust, not abuse.

Just as I noted about safe words in a TPE, some Doms don’t allow safewords at all in CNC, as they feel it gives the submissive too much control.

The non consent part means that while the submissive may occasionally not want to do something to Dom demands, and they can voice that, they still ultimately want to serve and be used, even if they do not like that particular task or order.

Those that have been following along with my writings can clearly see examples of TPE/CNC in them.

In the last note I talked about sending Q out in her wet shorts, and while she tried to pushback for a moment, she ultimately realized it was useless and went. I would put my story about my friend E into this category. Definitely the story about Q providing oral service to a man is perhaps the strongest one. That was something she struggled with, but, ultimately, decided she was devoted enough to our dynamic to push through, even though, she clearly did not want to.

This type of dynamic can be extremely beneficial and rewarding to both parties, but only if entered into carefully and each party fully honour their role. I don’t really know where to end this because I normally add an example from my own, personal experiences…but the most notable ones that demonstrate this subject I have already spoken about. So, I will just leave it at this for this time.