This question comes up so often I want to have my answer pre-written so I can either copy and paste or share the link.
You want a whole lot of things done to you. And that is all you seem focused on. This is going to cause you frustration. Women will read any profile you write and look at you like you are a job, a non-paying job. And most people do not want to sign up for a non-paying job.
What do you have to offer? Why should a woman be interested in you? That is what we want to know.
(And no, that does not mean eating pussy or body worship.)
In general, a woman will not care about your kinks until she cares about you. Why should a woman care about you?
There are literally thousands of guys on here that want what you want. Why should we give you the time of day?
Being a sub is not the problem. I will only date a sub. Hey! Did you see what I wrote there? “Date”. I did not say I want to make a random strangers sexual sub fantasies come true. Ew! Why would I want to do that?
You should definitely not hide who you are and what you want, or you will waste years in frustration. But think about this.. when you meet women in the vanilla world do you introduce yourself with “Hi. I like to receive blow jobs. And fuck doggy style. Are you into doggy style?”
How would that first date go?
Then don’t do that here. We are capable of looking at your fetish list if we care enough to.
You need to “sell” yourself. A Dominant woman is still a woman. What is good enough about you that we should give you a second glance?
When my boy reached out to me on Fet he had no explicit pics, he owned a home, had a good job, was handsome, and we shared the same political beliefs. We quickly met in person where he was respectful, thoughtful, available to talk but also gave me space to talk and flirt with others. I LIKED him.
I had no idea he was into some wild stuff. I would have been turned off to know that he was into piss play and other “edgier” stuff. He never told me until I asked.
And once I knew, I didn’t want to do some of the stuff, and he was ok with that because he liked ME. he wasn’t looking for any woman to do him. He was looking for ME. And he was willing to play within my limits.
Meanwhile he was serving me in ways I wanted to be served. He was taking the car and filling it with gas. He was giving me back rubs without turning them sexual. He was opening doors, buying me cute little gifts, giving me compliments, cooking me meals, doing the dishes, being vulnerable and sharing his secrets,
Eventually we fell in love and I became interested in giving him some more intense pleasure. And now I do most of the things and he does all of the things I want.
To get your kinky needs met usually means you need to invest. You either invest your time and attention in a relationship or you invest money in a pro. Do not expect to say “Someone do me” and expect women to shoot up their hand and say “oh! Me! Me! Let me service all your sexual wants and needs!”
Look for a dominant woman you might have something in common with. Don’t look for ANY dominant woman. We hate that. I want to feel special not like an interchangeable fuck doll.