submissive Titles and Roles
Below is a list of Roles and Titles that submissives can use. BUT REMEMBER one of the main tenets of BDSM and Power Dynamics is to do what feels right for you and your partner. There are people in the lifestyle who have firm beliefs that a “slave” is owned property and has less rights and autonomy than a “submissive”. They believe a slave can never leave the dynamic and will be willed as property should the dominant die. AND THEN there are people who identify as “slave” because it feels sexy too them and they practice bondage in the bedroom. In the world of BDSM, both labels are valid. As long as you and your partners agree to the terms and their usages, it is really no one else’s business. And when you are communicating with possible partners you should NEVER assume they define a term in the same way you do. Don’t just tell them “I am a pet.” Define what that means to you so they have a clearer understanding.
Alpha Pet
A pet that holds a higher or more dominant role within a group of pets or submissives while still remaining submissive to their Dominant or Owner. They may have responsibilities or authority over other pets in the dynamic, such as guiding, training, or managing them, and serving as a role model or leader within the group.
Alpha submissive/Majordomo
An Alpha Sub is a submissive who holds a higher or more authoritative role within a group of submissives. While they remain submissive to their Dominant, they may have specific responsibilities or some level of authority over other subs within the dynamic. The term can be controversial, so it should be used thoughtfully. In a leather house they may be called “majordomo.” where they are the chief steward of the household, they keep things running and organized for the Master and is “in charge” of the other slaves.
babyboy/babygirl
A person who desires a parental or nurturing figure in a relationship, sometimes identifying as or role-playing as a young boy/girl. The term is also used as an affectionate designation for a submissive.
brat or bratty sub / rebel
Typically a submissive or bottom who takes pleasure in playfully resisting or defying their Dominant or top in a childlike manner.
butler
A service role within a formal setting, often involving a structured uniform (such as a suit and tie), overseeing other servants, and managing household operations while remaining accountable to a dominant head of the house.
cuckold or cuckquean
People who may or may not be submissive who consents to their partner engaging in sexual activities with another person. The dynamic often emphasizes the perceived sexual superiority of the third party but can also be driven by voyeuristic or exhibitionistic pleasure for all involved. In many cases, the cuckold or cuckquean is actively humiliated, which can include tasks such as cleaning up bodily fluids after the act.
do-me sub / fuck boi
This type of submissive is rarely self-identified, has a long list of kink experiences they seek to fulfill and often boast about having no limits. They frequently switch Dominants because no one can meet their idealized fantasy. Their submission is primarily focused on satisfying their own desires, assuming the Dominant’s needs will align with their expectations. To them, any Dominant is interchangeable, serving only as a means to fulfill their personal fantasies.
geek / nerd
A typically shy or introverted individual with strong scientific or technological expertise, often thriving in online spaces and excelling in domains like online RPGs.
An alternative version is the “geek bard,” who serves their Dominant’s imagination and intellect by creating poetry, customized erotica, art, and other forms of creative expression to entertain and arouse her.
geisha
These submissives enjoy dressing up, being displayed as eye-candy, and physically catering to their Owner’s desires. Exhibitionists at heart, they are skilled in the art of coy seduction and can showcase marks, ropes, and outfits with equal flair. A bit of a perfectionist, they excel in various forms of entertainment, including music, dance, literature, poetry, art, and current events. They can be somewhat sycophantic and vain.
guard dog
A blend of pet, warrior, and brat, this submissive is fiercely loyal and eager to please but less docile than other pets. They require firm discipline and training to stay focused, as they can be easily distracted. Playful and spirited, they may occasionally nip when excited. They thrive on love, cuddles, and constant reassurance that they’re a good boy.
henchman
A devoted, obedient, and subservient follower of a Dominant figure, the Henchman often serves as their “right-hand man” or enforcer. They may be responsible for maintaining order, discipline, or control within the dynamic, acting on the Dominant’s behalf. This role can involve carrying out tasks that require authority or intimidation, all while remaining under the Dominant’s command.
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Knight
A submissive role centered on service, where the Knight acts as a protector or servant. They embody chivalry, courtly romance, and the protection of the Queen.
minion
This submissive serves their Owner in any way possible to improve and enrich their life.
Ninja/ Samurai
This is the discreet submissive who doesn’t openly display his submission but follows the ‘warrior’ code. He anticipates needs and takes action, often surprising a woman with his thoughtfulness.
object
Being treated or viewed as inanimate, such as a chair, table, or ashtray, this role is similar to identities like “thing” or “creature.” It suggests that the individual enjoys being dehumanized, losing their individuality, and being used entirely for the purposes or desires of their Dominant.
omega
An identity rooted in the belief of a social or dominance hierarchy, with the Omega positioned at the bottom. They are often perceived as gentle, calm, and peacemaking.
pet
A person, whether or not they identify with animal play, who is treated as if they are cherished and owned.
property
A submissive who is owned by their Dominant or Owner, often taking on a more objectified role.
puppet
The relationship between a puppet and puppeteer, or puppet master, is a form of objectification dynamic.
A puppet is “not an independent person” to some extent, with their actions or words being directly controlled by the Dominant.
service submissive
A submissive or slave who prefers performing labor tasks rather than engaging in sexual activities. A servant may take on roles such as a maid, butler, handyman, or provide personal services like bathing and grooming.
sissy
A person who participates in feminization as a kink, which may also involve humiliation, to achieve a different emotional or mental state.
This person may or may not be submissive.
*Note – this term and practice are highly controversial within the femdom community. Some Female Dominants will have nothing to do with sissies.
slave
A person who relinquishes complete control to someone within an agreed-upon dynamic or relationship. This is a type of submissive in a long-term dominant/submissive relationship.
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toy / plaything
Typically a submissive role within a dynamic with a Dominant, where the submissive is objectified and treated as a toy for the Dominant’s pleasure.
urinal
A submissive who enjoys being urinated on, or drinking urine, as part of urine play.
Warrior / Bodyguard / Gladiator
A submissive who embodies physical strength, the ability to defend, and the skill to fight while protecting their Dominant.
The Gladiator is a sub-archetype of the Warrior/Bodyguard, where the gladiator must continually prove their worth through physical endurance, striving to surpass other fighters in order to earn their place in the Queen’s bed.
worm
A submissive who desires to be treated as though they have no value, experiencing both verbal and physical abuse.
worshipper
A submissive who deeply respects and admires those to whom they feel devoted.
